[Robido]

Hello everyone who spend their time on this forum!

The topic said it all! Im in desperate need of the always awesome Rayne's wisdom!'

As tragic and pathetic this post may seem I just broke up with my GF!

It wasnt something we wanted but it needed to be done because we where fighting all the time.. It just wasnt worth it anymore. Now I feel terrible and I just want her back..

So..
What would Rayne say to make me feel better?
What would Richard do to help me move on? << Perhaps a stupid question...

There isnt enough Redbull and Vodka in the world to ease my pain! I think I'll pass out soon

Cheers
//Robido

Ps. I hope I posted this in the right place if not, delete/move the damn thing!

[Mismin]

Richard would probably pluck your head from your shoulders, hollow it out and send it to your ex filled to the brim with heart shaped chocolates with a note saying "Its not you, its me"

[chetmo]

Hello everyone who spend their time on this forum!

The topic said it all! Im in desperate need of the always awesome Rayne's wisdom!'

As tragic and pathetic this post may seem I just broke up with my GF!

It wasnt something we wanted but it needed to be done because we where fighting all the time.. It just wasnt worth it anymore. Now I feel terrible and I just want her back..

So..
What would Rayne say to make me feel better?
What would Richard do to help me move on? << Perhaps a stupid question...

There isnt enough Redbull and Vodka in the world to ease my pain! I think I'll pass out soon

Cheers
//Robido

Ps. I hope I posted this in the right place if not, delete/move the damn thing!

Well, I suppose Rayne's answer would involve finding indiscriminate sexual partners (and possibly Star Wars themed sex toys), but I'd be just guessing....

Hope you're consuming top shelf vodka... too much fuesil oil produces hangovers (everyone usually assumes it's the alcohol. That just kills the brain cells w/out pain.). I recommend Russian Standard. Nice clean taste w/out the after taste of Stoli, but you still know it's vodka (unlike certain unmentionable non-russian brands). Be sensible in consumption, though. There's still alcohol poisoning. And you may want to avoid tylenol or aspirin for a while (too much possibility of liver damage or internal hemorrhaging from too thin blood).

Look, you still want honest, IRL experience advice? There's people you need to talk to. Because you haven't given us enough information to make an informed opinion. My first guess is that you don't want to deal with loneliness, and are afraid of starting over. So you wallow in grief. That is, if this isn't just the typical grieving period for relationship losses (you didn't get specific about how much time elapsed.).

I'd start by trying to objectively examine why you and the ex fought all the time. Then I suggest you try to envision the perfect girl for you. Once you have that image concretely composed, ask yourself if you are worthy of such a girl, and why? Do you have the right job, have enough education and social status? What are you doing to make yourself available for such a girl to find you? Be tough on yourself. But don't waste time blaming yourself for a bad relationship. You stuck it out as best you could, right?

Most of all, listen to T.H. White:

"The best thing for being sad," replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, "is to learn something. That's the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then— to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot of things there are to learn."- The Once and Future King

[AckbarsHomeGirl]

Here's one: How would Rayne answer the question:

Is it better to be loved and with some one, or alone and happy with yourself?

[Robido]

Thanks chetmo for the Vodka tips I'll keep that in mind for next time My brain hated me the next day.
We broke up like 5 Hours before I posted this. I didnt wanna get to detailed since "sensetive" stuff usually find its way on to random forums where ppl LOL at it. (which isnt nice!)
Things are working out atm. Im moving away from my hometown on sunday so I guess I'll have something to keep myself busy and with happier thoughts of a brighter future.

I guess Richard always knows best how to get back at people..
Rayne would probably say: "She broke your heart did she? I suggest you nail her best friend/s"

[Corrderio]

I can only give you advice Rayne learned form his brother....

http://leasticoulddo.../comic/20061215

[JesseLee]

Hello everyone who spend their time on this forum!

The topic said it all! Im in desperate need of the always awesome Rayne's wisdom!'

As tragic and pathetic this post may seem I just broke up with my GF!

It wasnt something we wanted but it needed to be done because we where fighting all the time.. It just wasnt worth it anymore. Now I feel terrible and I just want her back..

So..
What would Rayne say to make me feel better?
What would Richard do to help me move on? << Perhaps a stupid question...

There isnt enough Redbull and Vodka in the world to ease my pain! I think I'll pass out soon

Cheers
//Robido

Ps. I hope I posted this in the right place if not, delete/move the damn thing!

Okay, first, why did you break up? Was it a mutual, we need to grow more thing, or was it you caught her doing things with people/things other than for you, or she caught you, etc., etc. If it was "we both need to grow more as people," then that's what you do. To tell the truth, I think that anyone, anyone needs to do this right off of the bat before they even begin to think about being in a relationship. What you need to ask yourself is, "am I complete person?" If the answer is no, then for both of ya'll's sakes, don't go back to her. Become that complete person, who is comfortable with, and enjoys himself as company, then you don't need to be with everyone. Get to know yourself, become your own best friend, and then see about getting back together with her, if that's what you really want.

[Legimus]

From my own experience, I think you need to take some time to be you. In most relationships you will experience, there comes a point where you just plain realize, as much as you might love the person, that it is just not meant to be. If you two were fighting a lot, then that is a clear sign there were unhealthy aspects of the relationship. Frequent disagreements are one thing, but fighting is never, ever good. I broke up with my last girlfriend for the exact same reasons as you: we were fighting too often, and although I loved her terribly, it just plain wasn't worth it anymore. I didn't want to, but I had to. And here I am, with a multitude of my own personal stresses, but she is causing none of them. Which is, ultimately, a great relief. I have taken the time to just be ME and I actually like myself better now because I don't feel obligated to always be someone special for her. Perhaps you should do the same

Second, I would seriously consider not talking to her for a few days. Give yourself some space, and let her cool off a bit. Believe me, it's one of the best things that you can do. Breakups are meant to be solved by each party individually, not together. If you are missing her, being in contact with her will only pain you more. For now at least. If you think you might be seeing her on any sort of regular basis (school, work, mutual friend), after a week or so try and work things out, and make sure there are as few hard feelings as possible. Enemies are never a good thing to have. And if you will not be seeing her on that type of basis, you will never have the obligation of calling her again. That might be a good thing. Unless you think you can build a friendship with her, without any romantic thoughts on your part. I myself prefer the latter route, and my last two girlfriends are now very good friends of mine

Thirdly, a hug to you sir. /hug